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Well, let's talk about friendships for a minute here's how you know someone's your friend
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A: You can tell them bad news and they'll listen, they won't tell you why - you know - you're stupid
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and why that bad thing happened to you, and how something worse happened to them once and - you
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know - they rail the whole conversation. You can actually tell them bad news and they'll listen.
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So that's a good thing and then this is a weirder thing you can tell them good news and they'll help
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you celebrate and that's a really good way of deciding who you should have around you. Because
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if you have someone around you - you know - something good happens to you,
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and you're kind of afraid to even admit it because - you know - God something good happened to you,
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it's like you let that be known it'll certainly be taken away so- you know - you come out and
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you sort of tell someone half-heartedly that something good happened to you and
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they give you a whack and then talk about - you know - the great thing that happened to them three
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years ago or worse the great thing that happened to someone that they knew three years ago. You
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know - it's like | go away from that person | they're not helpful to you and they're not helpful
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to themselves either and so you want to surround yourself you got to think about this, you got to
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surround yourself with people who want the best for the best part of you, you can hang around with
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weasels and losers that are trying to pull you down to justify the fact that they're spiraling
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downhill as well and - you know - the upside of that is you don't have to have any responsibility
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and you can all whine about how wretched life is - you know - so that's pretty attractive , but
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I would say it's also a bad medium to long-term plan, and so it's it's acceptable and desirable
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to try to surround yourself with people who are facilitating your development - you know - and
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you might say: "well, I've got people around, I know them well, you know they're they're
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they're not doing that well and and they're and they don't fit into that category" It's like
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"what's your point? what are you gonna do with them exactly if they'll if they'll
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listen and cooperate with you and move towards a better future?" Great, if they don't pay any
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attention and they keep doing the same damn things over and over and they're not going
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anywhere and it's painful, then maybe the proper thing to do is say you just have your misery,
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I'll go off and have my life and maybe you'll wake up at some point
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in the future and think that's a better way of being because just putting up with it is all
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well. They call that "enabling" right? you put up with that sort of behavior you're providing
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tacit consent for it and even tacit approval it's like it's bad idea you have I would say both the
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right and the responsibility to surround yourself with people who are good for the best part of you